“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.”
― Karl Marx
Have you taken a look in your wardrobe lately? How many pieces of clothing stare back at you with the ‘are you ever going to wear me’ look? They’ve been there forever. You almost don’t notice them anymore or perhaps they’re out of fashion and you’re waiting for them to come back in, or you’re saving them for a rainy day! Yes, we all have them! Did you ever think it was time for a spring clean?
With friendships it’s the same. Just as we grow into them, we also grow out of them. Our paths cross; we meet, they intertwine; we become friends, our paths divide; we part.
It’s at this juncture we should realise we need to let go. The people we meet and the friendships we make throughout life are important particles that help us determine who we are today. The memories will remain and the lessons will be learned but just like that brown coat you never wear in your wardrobe, why not free it and let it make its way into another persons world.
This is my analogy on friendships: Friends are like a bottle of red wine! Made of good quality, hand picked grapes.
Here are 5 qualities we should look for in a friendship:
Our lives are already chaotic enough. Do we really want to spend our free time with people that bring us down? No! We want to spend time with positive people. People who genuinely care about us, who can give us advice, a shoulder to cry on. Negativity will just bring us down!
2. Make us laugh
How good does it feel to laugh and smile? A friend is someone who you feel comfortable with and can laugh freely with. We feel younger, lighter, less stressed when we are laughing. So why spend time with people who don’t make us smile?
3. Inspire us
I love to inspire and to be inspired. How great is it to have someone around you who inspires you to be better, smarter and funnier?
Friends are always here for us through thick or thin, good times and bad. The true friend won’t abandon you in times of need. Kindness is genuine and comes from within.
When life is tough and perhaps family isn’t there for you, what you look for is a trustworthy friend. Someone who listens, doesn’t judge, gives advice and who doesn’t go around telling everyone your problems.